Reflecting on my Second Marriage... and Divorce

Hello again, my friends. It is I, Lois Mills, welcoming you to another installment of my Silver and Sensational blog. Today, we're continuing our series on divorce. If you haven't already, be sure to read the post about my first marriage. It might help what I share in this post make more sense.

This week, we're diving into marriage number two. Make sure to check out our

for a deeper dive into this topic.

Husband Number 2:

Last week, I shared with you the circumstances that led to the beginning and end of my first marriage. This week, it's time to talk about my second marriage. Even if you were to just skim these blog posts, you would be able to see that I certainly have followed a pattern. You would think that as the years went on, I would have learned to look for the red flags and pay attention to them, but apparently, I didn't.

Three Years Predicted by My Divorce Attorney:

The divorce attorney for my first marriage predicted that I would be remarried within three years, and he was right. Within the set timeframe, I met a kind man, who was kind to me. A first. We lived together, did everything together, and after a while, I was ready to be married again.

The Patterns Repeat:

Despite me being the one ready to get married, you wouldn't have believed it on the wedding day. Yet again, I found myself not wanting to walk down the aisle. I told my soon-to-be-second-husband, and his reply was simply, "What a fine time to come to that conclusion."

Once more, I was talked into going through with the wedding, allowing myself to be convinced that it was just nerves. This relationship was an improvement on the first. We were friends and had good times. He would leave notes for me every morning saying he loved me, and we got along. However, in hindsight, I can confidently say it lacked passion.

I Knew Without Knowing Exactly WHAT:

It was seven years into this relationship that things drastically changed. For three months, I knew my husband was doing something behind my back. I had a feeling he was cheating because, let's face it, ladies, when we know, we know. But nothing else in our relationship changed. He would still leave me little notes in the morning and we were living our lives. However, one morning, after leaving yet another note for me, he came home in the evening and asked for a divorce.

Did I take it well? No. Was I heartbroken? Of course. But when he said he felt that he was pursuing a more meaningful relationship with this other woman, I let him go.

Looking Back Now:

I have done a lot of work on myself when it comes to relationships, and therapy has made it easier for me to reflect on these experiences and share them. In sharing, it's a reminder that life is full of lessons, and sometimes, we need to go through tough times to come out stronger on the other side. Hopefully, there's something in the sharing for you as well.

I encourage you to watch the YouTube video for more insights into my story and to share your own experiences in the comments. Let's support each other and learn from our journeys.

Until next time, stay Sensational and remember, it's never too late to find your happiness.

🤍,

Lois

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